Our Core Principles

Equitable Social Practices Our primary goal is to challenge and disrupt oppressive patterns, specifically those that emerge within kink-positive and sex-positive communities. We are committed to recognizing and addressing the unique and evolving needs of marginalized individuals within these communities, as defined by the individuals themselves.

Embracing Sexuality, we firmly uphold consensual sexuality as a fundamental human right. We refrain from passing judgment on any consensual expressions of sexuality, acknowledging that they are not inherently immoral or unhealthy. Moreover, we critically examine the ways in which individual trauma and systemic oppression intersect with and influence sexual experiences.

Promoting Consent, we actively promote a culture where the power of a “No” is respected and valued, while celebrating and affirming a wholehearted “Yes.” We are dedicated to creating an environment where kinksters can make decisions free from coercion and manipulation. We support them by providing comprehensive, accurate, and easily accessible information to inform their decision-making processes.

Our Dedication to “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” At Secret Door Society, we firmly believe in upholding the core principles of “Safe, Sane, and Consensual” as the foundation of BDSM activities. Here’s how we define and uphold these principles:

Safety: We prioritize knowledge and understanding of the techniques and safety considerations associated with BDSM practices. It is crucial to act in accordance with this knowledge to ensure the physical and emotional well-being of all participants involved.

Sanity: We emphasize the importance of distinguishing between fantasy and reality. By recognizing this distinction, we encourage responsible and informed decision-making, ensuring that actions align with a consensual and mindful approach.

Consent: We prioritize the utmost respect for the boundaries set by each participant. We emphasize that consent is ongoing and must be actively communicated and respected by all parties involved throughout the entire duration of any BDSM activity.

By adhering to these principles, we strive to create an environment that promotes the well-being, empowerment, and fulfillment of all individuals engaged in BDSM practices.

Our Commitment to Consensuality

The Secret Door Society is a consent-based organization and does not condone or tolerate abusive behavior or relationships.

Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, and Sadism/Masochism (BDSM) activities are based on the ethical principle that what we do is done by agreement among all of the participants, which means all the participants communicate what they agree to do and not to do, as well as the nature of the relationship that they agree to enter.

Characteristics of Consent

• Consent is choice: The people giving consent to engage in a BDSM scene or enter into a power exchange relationship must do so voluntarily, without being subjected to threats, fraud, coercion, or deceit.
• Consent is informed: Everyone involved must know enough so that the consent is given on an informed basis to the BDSM activities that are planned or to the power exchange relationship.
• Consent is given by an adult with a sound mind: BDSM takes place among consenting adults. A person must have sufficient mental capacity to give consent, and each person has a legal obligation to make sure that this is the case with all of their partners. In order to consent, you must be in a clearheaded state of mind, not impaired by alcohol, prescription medicine, or recreational drugs.
• Consent is given within limits: Consent is not a blank check. Consent must be clear as to what BDSM activities and/or what type of power exchange relationship is being agreed to.
• Consent is revocable: Anyone can revoke consent to anything at any time during the activity. If a pre-negotiated and agreed-upon safe word or safe sign—or any other pre-negotiated expression of a withdrawal of consent—is ignored, consent has been violated.
• Consent is communication: It is ethically and legally important in any scene that there should be a mutually understood means of communication between the participants, whether you use plain speech, safe word, or safe sign.
• Consent is not a defense for causing serious injury: When “serious bodily injury” occurs during a scene, it is possible that criminal prosecution for assault will take place, even when consent was clearly and validly given for the BDSM activity that caused the injury.

Our Dedication to Your Well-being

In essence, The Secret Door Society is devoted to creating a secure, inclusive, and sex-positive space that prioritizes consent for adults seeking personal growth and exploration within the BDSM, fetish, and kink lifestyles. We welcome individuals from all walks of life and sincerely value your collaboration in achieving this goal.